Links to my writing--recent publications
Write to Heal
The following exercise is one that I lead in workshops and that you may find helpful.
There are three parts to this exercise. You may like to set a timer to work on each part for 10 minutes so as to pace yourself. There are layers in the healing process and that allows you to peel off certain layers. If feelings are intense, remind yourself to take a break and focus on something positive, or reach out for some help with those feelings.
The letter unsent:
Pour out all you need to say to this person, knowing you will not send this letter to them, and it is just for you getting clear, and possibly sharing with someone else so that you are heard and your needs acknowledged.
The amends letter from the other:
If the person who hurt you were able to be wise and compassionate and really see what they did, what amends letter would they write you? Writing this to yourself can give you the apology you need to feel more at peace.
Retraining our brains: savoring a positive memory
Write about an enjoyable memory with this person. Bring in all the senses, describing what you see, hear, smell, or taste, and what bodily sensations you experience. Describe your emotions. Really feel yourself in the memory.